• Preparing Your Child for the New School Year

    Preparing Your Child for the New School Year School is fast approaching for most children and with all ages and stages there is some degree of anxiety involved.  Will I like my teacher, will I have any friends in my class, what...
  • Family connection

    Tena Koutou..Whanau/Family. How do we look after all the intricate relationships that dwell inside this multifaceted organization, for want of a better word? I feel it would be fair to say that on some level or another we may have all...
  • Intutive Healing Therapy

    Tena koutou...And welcome to another year. I cannot believe it has been about a year since my last column, where did the time go? I guess I have been so tied up in my Mahi and the busyness around my Whanau, that the time gets quickly swallowed...
  • It takes a village to raise a child

    Tena Koutou. 'It takes a village to raise a child', an old human development phrase from my study days, but one that has stuck with me. What does that mean exactly and how well are we doing this in our communities? This may mean...
  • In Limbo

    Tena Koutou, and welcome to another year. I hope you have all managed to manoeuvre your way through the Christmas festive season to a space where you are beginning to prepare yourselves for the year ahead. Recapping on conversations over...
  • Merging Homes

    Tena Koutou. It has been some time since my last column; I hope the winter months have been kind to you all. I took some much needed space away from my work over the winter period, to make some changes, rejuvenate, do some work around my...
  • Stepping up to parenting

    Tena Koutou. Looking back over my last column, lead me to wonder if you may all be thinking, this whole parenting thing is impossible and what a load of rubbish, because who has got all their stuff sorted and what the heck does this wise adult...
  • The job description of a parent

    Tena Koutou. Following on from my last column around what a parent's job description may look like, I want to spend some time today, looking more closely at this. We know that having a baby and becoming a parent doesn't come with a...
  • Creating a positive relationship with your teen

    Tena koutou, Rangatahi Teens ... how might you develop that all important positive relationship with your young person? What sort of relationship do you think they want from you? These are really important questions to ask yourself if you...
  • Back to school

    Tena Koutou, as our little people venture back to school and we become settled back into our mahi, how do we keep that sense of peace around,so everything doesn't become all hectic and stressed. I didn't do so well in my first week...
  • The New Year

    Tena Koutou and welcome to another New Year. I hope that the festive season was a good one for you all and that you have recovered from the tinsel laden, Christmas wrapping day, which we all call Christmas. Don't get me wrong, I love the...
  • (1) Christmas (2) Spend time with me

    (1)Tena Koutou. As Christmas comes a knocking, there may be a myriad of thoughts and feelings associated with this festive time of the year for you. Ideally we may all like Christmas to be a joyous time, one to be lapped up with fun and...
  • Times of sadness

    Kia Ora Koutou. On a bit of a serious note today, I really want to speak out to those of you, who are feeling as though your whole world has just fallen apart. Believe me, it won't have, even if it feels that way. My world has felt like that...
  • Do your parents really suck?

    Kia Ora all, my name's Jo, I'm one of the Counsellors at Parentline Manawatu. I'm a mum of three, ages 8, 13 and 23 and I have three mokopuna, who are 1, 4 and 5 years of age. I've been asked to write a bit of a blog to all the...
  • Keeping it simple

    Tena Koutou, in thinking about what to write about in today's column, there are three words that come to mind "Keeping It Simple". This is often what I try to encourage in clients when times get a bit rough and life decides to...
  • Minimal care

    Tena Koutou, Minimal care, this is an expression I heard recently on TV, in reference to whanau and their tamariki. So what is minimal care - and when is minimal care deemed to be neglect? Children need more than parents or adults in the home...
  • The Bigger Picture

    Several parents have recently told me how much they have enjoyed Nigel Latta's recent tv series on teenagers. I have seen a few of them myself.. and was unable to resist cracking a smile..actually laughing hysterically ..through some of it....
  • Parenting through separation

    Tena Koutou. I realise that this is a topic that I have previously covered, but I want to revisit it today as I feel it is such an important issue. Parenting Through Separation. When couples have decided that their relationship is no longer...
  • That Special Place Within...

    Tena Koutou. Parenting from that special place within...how do we develop this and become connected to this special place...? What may get in the way and overshadow our ability to be with our children in a loving, caring and respectful ways?...
  • Parent-Teen relationships

    Tena Koutou, Teens in relationship to their parents, this can be a great combination or this can be a relationship destined for upset and turmoil for all. So what do parents out there, need to know, to enable them to have as stress free a journey...
  • Whanau life and all it entails

    From taxi service to teacher, nurse, cook, gardener, cleaner, you name it, as parents, we all play these roles and more, and it can get really tiring at times. Our roles within our whanau are busy enough and then we may also have the added role of...
  • What is the "right" way to raise your child?

    Tena Koutou. When it comes to raising children, there are a million and one ways how this can be done. This is okay if, as a couple, you both agree on a certain parenting style, but what happens when this is not the case? And quite often this...
  • Mindfulness

    Tena Koutou. MINDFULNESS is a word that keeps popping up around me at the moment, described by some, as a framework to live our lives by, almost like a Mantra. My own personal definition of MINDFULNESS is to continue to remain aware of ourselves...
  • Tantrums in the supermarket...

    Tena Koutou. You are in the middle of your weekly grocery shopping, with your little ones in tow. You manage to make it to the check out, without too much fuss, and then it starts. "Can I have this bag of lollies?" and another voice is...
  • Child development and slow release fertilizer

    Firstly, what do hydrangeas have in common with children? Well, as it turns out, not lot. Secondly, what does Parentline's upcoming 'X Factor Parenting' presentation have in common with hydrangeas? Once again, nothing that jumps out at...
  • How much is enough?

    How much is enough? When teenagers begin abusing and hurting either you the parents, or other siblings, how much is enough and what should you be tolerating from your young people. My thoughts are that it is about zero tolerance to the big...
  • When parents go their separate ways.

    Tena Koutou. When couples have decided that their relationship is no longer working for them, and they go their separate way, what might be happening for the little people in all of this? Who looks out for them and considers their emotional...
  • What do we do and how can we help you?

    Parentline doesn't just help parents with 'Terrible twos' and Teen woes. Parentline does a lot more than that. Although there are parents that turn to us when they need some strategies - there are many more that come to deal with...
  • James, DNA and irrational positivity!

    James is a deceitful boy. When James disappoints his parents they are quick to remind him of it. In James' home hard work, and honesty are valued - so are kindness and love. James knows this. When James' parents tell him he is a liar, he...
  • Good cop ....bad cop.....wanna swap?

    So the kids know right? They know it's Dad they ask when they want to have a sleep out, in a mouldy tent, on the back lawn, with weather forecasts of 5 degrees and steady rain. And they know it's Mum they ask at 6pm on Sunday night when...
  • Oxygen masks

    Most of us who have flown anywhere will recognise this -"If you have a child or person next to you who requires assistance please ensure you place the oxygen mask on yourself first.....". As a parent this goes against instinct. It...
  • Of kings and happy endings

    If you are into warm fuzzy reads.....you scanned the right page ....read on.... A few weeks ago, if you were in the area of Cloverlea, you may have received my heartfelt flier - about a lost cat. Kitcat had gone missing. Now Kitcat is no...